“No one likes a bully” they are aggressive jerks! Bullies are found everywhere! Bullies are defined as people who use intimidation and sarcasm to “get their way” and “in their minds” they somehow believe they have the authority to demean anther person. Bullies are self-governed by their narcissistic motivation to elevate themselves. Bullies actually get satisfaction when they belittle another individual. The bully will do anything and everything they can verbally to tear down another person. They do this by laughing at them, not listening, interrupting and even “telling them off”. Bullies thrive on being right and letting everyone know it!
Everyday while working with women, I listen to stories from clients about how they believe they failed at birth. I hear words like ” failure, wimp, didn’t try, “they made me get an epidural”, and “not a ‘real’ natural birth”. They will tell their “birth story” and over and the common thread of defeat is ” I feel like a failures” because they did not experience birth like their friends, co-worker, and family. Women will talk of a so called “friend having a painless easy birth” and question why they could have them same, they must have failed. The feelings of failure arise from conversations whereas women challenge each other on their birth options and outcomes. Often, one can hear the conversations “well I had my baby at__________, why would you ever think of anything else? If you go to that facility ____________they will _______, and _________, or ________.”
Sometimes one can hear ” that can’t be safe”……. or ”you’re crazy to consider that”
Just fill in the blanks, it can be fun. No matter where you are the birth bullies try to make their personal opinion and outcome the one that is best for others. It can be such a strong influence that one can feel reject and like a failure if they don’t even try what the bully suggests. Bullies often use fear to make to coercive their opinion. They will attempt scare you into believing that options are not options by using the biggest scare tactic of all, “they will take your baby”.
My philosophy is that all babies are born. Think about it -they are born. Very few are born in a “blissful breathing baby out with harmonious singing and happiness and no pain.” This is not the norm, and it definitely doesn’t happen often. Believe it or not, in our world today, over 90% of all babies are born as “natural .” The birth itself is also one of the most powerful athletic events of all times! This event surpass all team sports, olympics, gold medals and trophies. This event uses an entire body to rhythmically and gently move a living being out of another. Yes, there is pain, exhaustion, physical, mental and emotional work and most importantly there is great reward. Birth requires training, health, and strength, it is not for wimps, failures, and cowards. Even bullies can give birth!
Every athlete in our world endures pain, training, exhaustion and reward. Athletes need encouragement, coaches, trainers and the cheering audience, not bullies. GOD’s plan was for women to be the champions. He chose women because they are strong, wise, fearless and able to complete the task. Each women who desires and is chosen to given birth will win and receive the prize! It is a miraculous event that can happen. BIRTH IS FOR CHAMPIONS -NO BULLIES ALLOWED.
The bible describes the evilness of the tongue in Psalms 52, reading the the tongue is deceitful, devises destruction like a two edgedsword. Reading these scriptures one can understand how words can be so painful that the cut to the heart of an individual. Our words to one another are very strong, and can either uplift or tear one down. I am challenging myself and you to champion positive influencing words to empower women in having an INCREDIBLE BIRTH DAY!